Verbal abuse is the excessive use of language to undermine someone’s dignity and security through insults or humiliation, in a sudden or repeated manner.
If you feel like you have walk on egg-shells around other people in your life, or like you can’t really say what you want to say when this person is around. Also if you feel like you have a person in your life that tell you want you want, when you want it and how you should get it all the time, then there is a good chance you are being verbally abused.
Verbal abuse has always never really been spotted right off the bat, it’s something that people will brush off, but if it becomes something that is repetitive then you start to take notice. This shouldn’t be the case, verbal abuse should be stopped once it starts, even if it’s the smallest of things.
Words can make or break a person and it’s so sad that most of the time words cause more harm than good. What happened to good ol’ optimism? Kindness? Care and love? Where have they gone? I believe that we all should feel special every single day of our lives even when we don’t think we are anything special we should all have someone to tell us that WE DO MATTER. It does not have to be a boyfriend or girlfriend, it can be one of your family members or a close friend.
What I want to point out is that if you are feeling like a verbal abuse victim, it is absolutely NOT your fault. If anything the fault lies with the person doing the abusing. No, you are not stupid, fat, lazy, or disgusting, You are better than all that! I know it’s easier said than done for you to feel better, and sometimes when you try verbalizing your feelings to others you get the “No way, this person is too kind to do that to you” sentence. However, what other people do not realize is that verbal abuse is not about fighting or leaving bruises but about control.
There is absolutely ZERO excuse for verbal abuse. None whatsoever! Most of the time verbal abuse is seen in relationships and it’s mainly the men, this is because sometimes men see themselves as strong and stern being when it comes to being around women, meaning that they should not show emotion or sensitivity to anyone, but you can be strong without being abusive, disrespectful or mean. I am not leaving out the females in this one. The female population most especially from the ages of 13-25 I believe can also become verbally abusive and women tend to show these traits without realizing it because we believe that the other person will be “okay with it.” In all genders, I believe that verbal abuse should not be tolerated at all.
For any assistance, it is best to get a support team, assemble people who you know will be there for you through thick and thin, who will protect you no matter the circumstances. For example if you choose to confront whomever is being verbally abusive, it is best not to go alone, come with a friend for support. Especially if you’re confronting a big guy or sometimes a strong woman. Who knows… Just don’t come alone.
I know what it is like to be verbally abused and not realize that it was happening. I was abused through out elementary school and finally got some back bone in my 10th grade of high school. Getting help and verbalizing what’s going on with you is not always easy, trust me, I know this from experience. I would hate to see anyone reach the point where you’ve just had enough and then you explode the way I did. It’s best to nip it in the bud before if begins.
Plus if you see someone else being verbally abused, DON’T JUST STAND THERE! even if the person did not ask you for help. HELP! They may not thank you then and there but trust me, they will be thanking you in their hearts!