Happy new year to all of you! If you are anything like me, you tend to not complete your new year resolutions. It either gets too overwhelming or you just give up and it’s easy to give up on making resolutions because you’ve convinced yourself you just can’t change. SNAP OUT OF IT. Get out of your slump….. you need to STAHP it! STAHP!… Right now.
Find a place to STR (Sit, Think & Reflect) then make a list of those things with a pen & paper or a tablet device.
Don’t make a short list of huge goals. Make a LONGER list with many smaller goals. If you need to put down 20 resolutions, go for it! Think about what you want to change or/and improve.
Decide what is most important on your list: Most of the time, items that leap out at you first, are the most important ones.
Don’t just address the big problems: A lot of you think that a new year means taking on the big issues. NO. NO. NO. It does not mean that at all! Start with the smaller things. The small habits in your life can turn into big habits, so when you can face that, then you can face the big issues… next year. Try to be realistic and adjust any goals that may be too hard to tackle by breaking them down. Sit down with your family and friends and discuss your goals and why you made them:Again, If you are like me, you like your independence! You want to do this all on your own. You want to do your resolutions in secret and wait for people to notice. I don’t like involving my family in thing I want to do that may better my life because I feel like I’m making them do it for me. ANYWAY! Tell your family or friends or whomever you feel will motivate and challenge you the best.Ask for their support on these goals throughout the year. Print or write out copies of your resolutions and post them wherever you can. Now keep your eye on the ball, check your list daily! Don’t be scared to add new SMALL and achievable goals throughout the year. Keep at it. The best goals in the world will do no good if you don’t follow through with consistent actions.
KEEPING YOUR RESOLUTIONS
Start following your plans immediately. Don’t wait for inspiration to strike. The best thing to do is start on January 1 and start tracking your progress.
Evaluate yourself on specific dates, or have someone evaluate you. This helps you to stay focused. It’s even better if you find someone who has the same resolution.
Remind yourself about your goals:, write down what you will do for that day on your schedule or calendar, what time you will do it, and don’t forget to actually do it, no matter how busy you are. They’re called challenging for a reason! Create your personal goal accomplishing environment so that you will complete your goals.
Reward yourself for a job well done: Make sure your reward is not too big that it conflicts with your list, but make it something that makes you smile and feel gratified.
It’s normal for your enthusiasm in completing your goals to fade over time, but don’t let that stop you. WAKE UP! At each low point, have faith that persisting and being consistent in reaching your goal will pay off in the long run. This is why the small milestone rewards matter so much because they confirm that you’re achieving.
Face your fear of change: Excuses might allow you to be lenient on yourself but they are also a way of giving up responsibility and sabotaging your own power. Look beyond “I can’t” and start substituting this with “I can” and “I am”. You can also identify your excuses by listing them out. This way you are aware of it. If you fall off track get back on the next day!
Lean on your support team. They are there to help you! Don’t expect to do this completely alone; look for other people’s advice, ideas and feedback to help you keep going.
PLUS You can keep some sort of journal if you feel like it is necessary to help you with your resolution!
NO UNREALISTIC GOALS Start small.
Don’t get discouraged if you slip up. Get back on track the following day.
Don’t try to plan your resolutions when you’re in a bad mood or pressed for time. Taking time to make a thoughtful list will make your goals easier to achieve.
Remember to REWARD YOURSELF! Reasonable rewards ONLY.
MY NEW YEAR RESOLUTION IS….